Finding Your Tribe {Part 5}
I hope you’ve enjoyed this series on finding your tribe. It is my hope that as a result of reading, you’ve formed a few new connections. If that is you, please leave a comment at the bottom of this post letting me know what the most helpful tip has been for you when it comes to forming or strengthening friendships.
If you haven’t had a chance to read Parts 1-4 in the series, I’ve provided a brief summary of each below. I’ve also hyperlinked each title because they are worth going back and reading when you can.
- Part 1: I share my story on forming friendships as an adult and admit that I’m “in the market” for some new connections as I still consider myself the new girl in my town.
- Part 2: The common theme I found in surveying adult women on Facebook was that you have to be willing to put yourself out there and actively seek the community you wish to establish.
- Part 3: This is all about being first. Controversial advice? Not so much when you strive to make the first move to deepen a friendship.
- Part 4: People connect to real life, and it’s ok to show others the less-than perfect parts of your life. Chances are, they’re struggling in a similar area too!
There’s a lot of meat in this series, so I truly hope you make time to go through it and try out some of the suggestions.
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Even after writing the series, I found myself wanting to delve deeper into the topic of adult friendships, and I couldn’t help but think of the first self-help book I ever read, years ago. It was none other than Dale Carnegie’s absolute classic How to Win Friends and Influence People.
I don’t remember how old I was when my Dad introduced me to this book, but it was a game-changer for me. I had always struggled to form lasting friendships with other girls. This book helped me with some practical strategies that people of any age can use immediately.
As this series comes to an end, I’m not ready for the discussion to be over. There is so much more to be said about finding your tribe. I recently picked up another copy of How to Win Friends and am working my way through it. I’m making notes at the end of each chapter so I’ll be sure to retain more of what I read.
You all, I am learning so much! And I’m only a couple of chapters in.
Takeaways (so far):
- It does no good to criticize another person. Criticism only puts the other person on defense.
- The only way you can get someone else to do something is to make them WANT to do it.
- People care about themselves first and foremost. Find a way to speak to their needs and wants and you’ll never lack for friends.
This book is such a rich resource! If you haven’t read it or it’s been a while, check it out, and join me as I read through it.
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this series as much as I’ve enjoyed writing it! Be sure to let me know in the comments what tip has helped you the most. Here’s to forming deep, lifelong friendships that bring JOY to your life!
